Table for One

“Captive Women:” a woman that NEVER goes out without a man or a group of women, basically a woman that refuses to be seen in public alone. I was a “captive woman.” There is still a social stigma about being out alone in public; you’re boring, desperate, or simply nobody likes to be around you. Completely false. I will be the first to say that I LOVE my own company, and am my own best friend.

I go EVERYWHERE alone and have no problem doing so. Bars, movies, restaurants, malls, diners, you name it. I even have this “thing” I do maybe once or twice a month, I call it my drunken movie night lol, don’t judge me. Lately I’ve been slacking because I’ve been accompanied to the movies but…

Anyways….

I buy myself alcohol; pour it in a “discrete” juice bottle, and get drunk while at the Movie Theater. It may sound retarded I know but its my thing and I have a ball. Another thing of mine is going to random bars and cafes and just talking to people. Why?? To network, and meet new people. You never know who you could be sitting next to. I was once at one of my favorite diners, it’s a little rinky dink place but they have the BEST hot chocolate ever. Anyways…. I was sitting in my booth with my ipod and notebook sipping on my hot chocolate when this old man turns and says “What is a pretty thing like you doing all alone on this cold night?” At first I thought the guy was a perv but I answered and said “Im enjoying my cup of hot chocolate.” He starts questioning the notebook and asks if I was a writer. I kindly responded “No, I just write. If that makes any sense.” Long story short we continue talking and come to find out he was related to Frank Gehry, the architect that designed the Guggenheim Museum in NYC. He pulled out his notebook and starts showing me some of his designs. We sat and he shared his experiences as an architect and I shared my dreams of becoming a future architect. It is definitely something that I will never forget all because I was at that diner, on that particular night, and I was alone. Again you never know who you is sitting to your left…

Any who…

I recently came to the conclusion that I’ve been dating myself for about a year now and to be honest, the relationship is wonderful. I take myself shopping, the movies, out to eat at fancy restaurants, treat myself to days at the spas, shit this is the best relationship that I’ve EVER had lol. Why should I need a man to do all the things I can do for myself?!?! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem getting men, not at all, but I don’t need a man to have a great time. I see it like this, if I don’t know myself and the things that make me tick then how will a future relationship work. Dating is all about getting to know the other person you’re “seeing” and how will they know you if you don’t know yourself. To please someone i.e. spouse, children, family, friends one must be able to be content with themselves. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important. If I make myself happy, it therefore translates to all my other relationships including my relationship with God, my children, and friends, significant others etc.

LOVE yourself and LOVE your own company. It’ll change your perception of life.

Smooches xoxo