MY "Prince Charming"

Okay so I was doing some writing the other day and found myself writing about ALL my past relationships with men. Not just men that I have dated or dealt with at one point in time but men that have been a part of my life and I’ve definitely come to the conclusion that every single man that has come into my life has done my wrong. EVERY SINGLE ONE... and that’s okay because I have grown, and learned more about myself and what I want out of a man from having all these failed relationships.

After HOURS of reanalyzing my past “failures” I’ve compiled a list of shit that I am looking for in MY version of “prince charming.” I’m not looking for perfection just looking for happiness and love.

My “Prince Charming”

LOYALTY & HONESTY This one is HUGE for me, why? Because EVERY SINGLE man has lied to me. I’m not talking about those small little white lies that people say, I’m talking about HUGE lies that continue to linger after time because it is always in the back of my head. One thing about me that men don’t seem to understand is that I am NOT naïve and even though you may think that I am falling for all your bullshit I KNOW what it really is. When you start lying to me, I don’t believe you: It is that simple. And if I don’t believe you then I can’t be with you. I don’t want to go out with the girls or you go out with your boys and always wonder what you’re doing. Been there, done that, and NO thank you.

DREAMS & AMBITIONS: I have goals. I have dreams. I have ambitions and I expect my man to be just as goal oriented as I am. I have things I want to accomplish and want a man that wants to build with me not just take in from my success. But not just having goals is enough; I need him grinding his hardest to make that shit happen. When I see a man that goes for what he wants it lets me know that nothing is out of his reach.

SENSE OF HUMOR: I need a man that can make me laugh. I am a very playful creature; I tickle, I’ll wrestle with you, I’ll play fight with your ass. Stupid shit makes me laugh so when a man can keep me laughing and smiling then that is an added bonus. I don’t want to be watching “Family Guy,” “Seinfeld,” “WipeOut” and you look like you just swallowed a lemon. It isn’t gonna work.

INTELLIGENT: And Im not talking about having a college degree, Im talking about someone that knows shit about life, about the world…. Someone that is not ignorant to the things around us. A man that I can hold a conversation with and wont think that “Conversate” is an actual word *SMH*. And it isn’t just about what goes on in the world and in the city around us but also be street smart. I know a little bit of a little bit and believe me it is definitely enough to get me by but I don’t want a man that cant relate to some of the things that I’ve lived, gone thru, and experienced.

HUSTLER & GRINDER: Im not talking about a dope boy or no shit like that, Im talking about a man that is about his hustle, his grind, his MONEY. I consider myself to be a hustler especially in the line of work that I’m in it’s all about hustling money so I need a man with that hustler mentality. When a person has a hustler’s mentality EVERYTHING they do and put work into someway, somehow, comes back to them. I want a man that KNOWS what I’m talking about when I say “Naw baby, we can’t link up cause I gotta go to work.” You don’t have to have all the money in the world BUT you do have to be able to take care of your own.

EYES: This is my muthafucking list and I like a man with great eyes. They say that person’s eyes are the windows to their soul so I want a man to have eyes that just tell a story. Eyes that tell THEIR story. Fairly simple….

LOVE FOR THE ARTS: Again this is my list and I want a man that is well rounded in every sense of the word. I love music, movies, poetry, architecture, literature etc and my man NEEDS to be able to relate to me on some level when it comes to the Arts. Music is a BIG one….simply because I love ALL music and I have my phases. One day I may be listening to 90s R&B and the next day I’ll be straight Rock&Roll. I need a man that has an understanding of GREAT music.

RESPECT: You need to give, to receive. Very simple. I have daughters and I want my daughters to see their mommy with a man that respects her to the fullest. I want to go out and have the world see that we love each other, and that we respect each other. A relationship cannot and will not succeed if the couple cannot respect each other for being different, and making mistakes. Noone is perfect but when you love someone you will always respect them. Respect is HUGE…and for those that know a little about my past would understand why.

SPORTS: I love sports…. Football and boxing being my number 1’s and I know I shouldn’t have too much of a problem finding a man that doesn’t like sports. During football season I try to watch all the games on Sundays and of course Monday Night Football. I cant have a man that will ONLY watch football when their team is playing *smh* oh no, not happening.

SEX: YES I need to have great sex….ALL THE TIME. I feel like I put in work when I have sex so I expect the same thing in return. Easy…

OVERPROTECTIVE: I CANNOT do it. I repeat I CANNOT do it. That overprotective bullshit is not sexy, it’s not cute, and it’s a big no no. I am old enough to know right from wrong, and am clear of mind body and soul to understand the decisions I make will affect the outcome of circumstances therefore I don’t need someone to try and shelter me from the rest of the world. I want to be able to go out with the girls and you be able to go out with the fellas and everything be okay. The more someone tries to control my decisions, and control my life the more I start to venture. Be secure with yourself and what we have together.

SEX APPEAL: Yeah looks aren’t everything but come-on now; one of the first things that attract you to

someone is their appearance. I’m not looking for my man to look like Lorenz Tate (don’t get me wrong though if he did….Owwww) but he’s gotta have sex appeal to him. I want my man to compliment me. He has to know how to dress, smell good, and just keep up with himself and his manly maintenance. If we go out and you expect me to look a certain way I expect you to look a certain way too. I want to walk in the room and everyone turn and say to themselves “Damn, who’s that fly couple right there?!” Own your look, make it yours, stand the fuck out…

KNOW YOUR ROLE: You are my man and I am your lady, don’t let a muthafucker try and come between that. Keep your homeboys in check as I will keep my girls in check and I hate being like this but I’ve dealt with it before, keep your family out of our business. “Misery loves company” but they damn sure aint gonna give it to us because I wont let it happen. If someone gets out of line about my man then I’m on that shit like white on rice and I expect the same REGARDLESS of who it is. If we are together it is because we want to be and we are happy with each other, plain and simple. Imma hold him down and be his Ride or Die as long as he plays his role.

I think I’m done….

Where are you Mr. Man???

Smooches xoxo