It's that time of the year. You know the time when the temperature starts changing, "days are shorter, nights are colder".... the time when the best thing to do is be balled up on the couch with your blanket and a shit load of movies cuz it's too damn cold to do anything else.... YUP!! It's Cuffin Season.
Summer is gone and niccas is out here looking for someone to bun up for the cold months ahead. Either they are out here looking for the one to keep close until about Memorial Day Weekend ORR they just call up the "backup." She's the cool one that he knew would be "cuffin season material," and has been either keeping or trying to keep her on the back burner. That's usually what I'm used to... first the texts start coming in, the usual "I've missed you." "I wanna see you" "what are you doing tonite?" lol and then maybe a phone call here and there but 99.999% of the time I dont get involved in any kind of way with past "situationships" ESPECIALLY if they try to come back around this time of the year. Im at a point in my life where I know what I want. I know where I wanna be and I know what I have to do to get there. I am not gonna involve myself with someone who goes from fling to fling... or someone that just seems confused on what they want. I just dont have the patience for it anymore.
Anywhoo....
A few tips to remember about "The Season"
#1. He is NOT your man. If he does not make it perfectly clear that the two of you are a couple then do not assume that you are. Even though you may do some of those things that couples do, dont get it twisted. Don't start planning ahead. More then likely you will not be meeting his family, you will not be meeting his friends, and you will not be spending the holidays with him. The ONLY holiday that you MAY be able to chill with him would be New Years, and thats cuz he's gonna be drunk and gonna wanna lay down the pipe. Im just saying.
#2. More then likely he isn't taking you anywhere or spending any money on you so know that you don't owe him diddly. Don't start going out and buying him Christmas gifts and Valentines Day chocolates.... NO! I guarantee you that come February 14th that nicca aint even gonna be nowhere to be found. Again, the two of you are not a couple.
#3. He's probably cuffin other girls. AGAIN, you are not a couple for you to be sitting there thinking that yall are exclusive. If one of his old joints hit him up believe me he's gonna make time to go be with her. If you dont talk about a future or if he doesnt try to make future plans it's because he doesnt see you being in it. Once the flowers start blooming again, so is he and he's gonna be back on the scene, looking for the fling.
#4. Last tip but the most important one.... Do not fall in love during cuffin season. You will get your poor heart broken when it's all said and done. Im not saying that it always happens this way, there is a possibility that two people just so happen to connect and keep the fire going even after the cold goes away, but let the cold months pass to see if that option is available. If yall still chill once Spring comes then take a chance, see what happens, but dont rush.
Smooches xoxo
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